Therapy is a safe container
Therapy is a space where it's safe to say your thoughts out loud, you don't have to present them as neat little packages ready for your therapist to open.
I can see the puzzled look on someone's face when I ask a totally unexpected question in therapy and witness them curling up inside themselves with the discomfort of not knowing 'the answer' to what I've asked.
The truth is, you're not supposed to have all the answers. I'm not testing you or trying to catch you out or put you on the spot. I'm asking from a place of genuine interest and curiosity, in the hopes of learning more about your process, and about you.
It's totally okay to take your time, to not know the answer, or to feel you need time to think about it. You can even think out loud if you feel safe enough.
Therapy is a space where you can spill those inner thoughts, the ones you don't even like to admit you have to yourself. It's an intimate, sacred space.
I view you in the context of your life, as a whole human. Not as only the human in front of me, who is feeling vulnerable and emotional but the person who is living their life and trying their best and showing up to do the work.
It's okay to not have all the answers. In fact, it's my job to make you think of things you've never thought of before you enter therapy. Please don't take it as if you should have known better.
Remember that it's much easier to see things from the outside, especially when you have empathy and understanding but it doesn't make me better than you. You still know yourself better than anyone else.
You are growing slowly but you are growing and that is so beautiful to see. Keep up the hard work, you're doing so good.